I used to have a manager, that would just simply say, "it is what it is."
I think I heard it some many times; that I started to subscribe to it.
I have found myself saying that same statement for the last decade.
However, I have decided that somethings that I have subscribed to in the past, no longer have room in my life.
Labels for instance, for the most part; Labels Suck!
Bad labels are laced with stereotypes, but even good labels, are still labels.
They require the label wearer to live up to expectations, and living up to expectations can be exhausting.
I have decided that I am not longer going to let "It is what It is" to be a theme in my life.
However, where has that really gotten anyone?
It is what it is -
I understand the concept.
Believe me,
However, I have a question.
Why?
Why does IT have power over anything?
Here is the thing; you have the power to change IT.
YOU.
HAVE
THE
THE
POWER.
She said - I recently lost a lot of weight; I am a single mother, so I haven't replaced a lot of my own clothing yet... I smiled and nodded, at the time I had lost some weight... So I asked her... How much did you lose, how long did it take, what did you do... so she showed me pictures,! And I was absolutely BLOWN away. Here was a woman that was standing before me that is at least 10 years older than Me, and she looked like she had lost over half of herself, it put my 20ish pounds to a shame.
So, I asked her how did you do it?
She smiled; she said well; I don't know if you would believe me.
I am asked all the questions, she said there were no major Diet changes, no major exercise changes, no drugs, and no surgery.
She said again, I don't know that you believe me, but I thought myself thin,
Then people came into the break room.
It would be another few years; before I would really revisit and start understanding...
So I asked her again, so you still feel that you "thought yourself thin?"
She said "Yes"
I asked her as many questions as I could., then took to the internet to research,
Years of Dieting; and nothing working. - - Is it possible, that I have the power, in my MIND, to lose weight?
I told you; that if you stuck around; I would tell you how I lost 185 pounds.
Life is a journey. No matter what you do, the results are going to be the same, so, why not enjoy
This chart - is something I have looked at for years.
I went through all of the pictures for my height; my current weight;
(and wondered, is this how others see me?)
Then I picked a picture; of a person that had a similar body as to "in my dreams" body would look like.
I saved that picture.
In January of 2016; I was 285 Pounds.
In July of 2016; I had started seeing a new doctor.
He did all of my labs; for possibly the first time in over a decade,
I was already down 40 pounds Since the beginning of the year.
A few weeks later; the follow-up visit.
I was prediabetic, and I would need to lose more weight.
To be honest; I was actually a little crushed; when he said those words, because by August; somehow; I had already come back to 230.
He wanted me to be 169 pounds or less.
I sat in his office; with my wife; still looking horror-stricken with the words prediabetic ( HUGE HUGE FAMILY HISTORY)... I could see... My life was about to change when I walked out the doors of his office.
I am sitting in the Doctors office; at that time I was 36, but I swear, my inner stubborn teenager came out, I argued with my doctor. I used the same excuse I have always used, hey doc, I am just big boned!
He asked me - what MY ideal weight was, I said I don't know. 200 pounds, I am tall, I have thick calf muscles, etc.
And what is your next goal?
I looked at him with the same blank state that my kids have, when I ask them to do, well anything.
I said, let's work on me getting to 199, and then I will discuss other options, so he looks at me and says, okay, and I watched him write down the following on my file - "Goal weight - 165"
By October 15th, 199.9 - It was the first time in my adult life, that I could remember seeing a number under 200.
It would take me until May of the next year to lose another 15 points. But while I was not losing pounds; I was losing inches.
I went and checked in with my doctor. He was excited to see my progress.
And he asked me again; what my goal weight was,.
My Doctor is close to my age, so it is more candid than any of my previous doctors.
So I say, Doc, you realize that I have lost around 100 pounds in the last oh I dunno 10 months.
He said yes.
I said, right now I just want to focus on keeping it off!
In October of 2017.
I walked into his office, weighing 165 pounds.
By January of 2018, I weighed in at 150!
It is June - and my weight is currently 143.
I never went to the gym, and yes my diet has changed, but we didn't really start out by changing the foods we ate.
I didn't do a bunch of sit-ups, pushups, or anything else that requires a boring time looking at muscles and hoping they will get bigger, but not cause you pain, but we did get up from the couch.
So, can you really use your mind to obtain your physical goals?
I would like to believe so.
I created micro goals if I could lose 10 pounds, then goal down, if I slid backward, I would adjust my attitude.
In my mind - Triple numbers to lose were scary. Triple numbers gave me a panic attack. So I started myself off with small goals and worked from there. Soon, 5 pounds turned into 10, and so on. With each accomplished mini goal, I was armed with more confidence.
If this is a Journey you want to start; sometimes its hard to remember where you have been with; So start yourself a journal,
I know, so 13 right?!
My journal is a photo journal, as well as my personal social media.
Here are a few things I recommend.
Don't Pick a goal WEIGHT, pick an idea goal shape, size, look, something POSITIVE.
Find people who are going through the same thing; send encouragement; encouraging others, it helps with the micro wins. It allows you to bond with someone, it allows you to give and get advice, and it allows you be a positive infleunce on others.
3) Take your picture today - you will want them later. Take frequesnt pro
4) Get a belt. - (Mine used to be my wife's - and it didn't fit) - once the belt started to fit, I was happy, but then it started to run out of wholes. - Once I month, I take a drill to my belt and add wholes to the belt. (I generally wear the belt on Monday's, if I am having a rough day, it is a small reminder, that I can accomplish anything... IF I JUST PUT MY MIND TO IT.
If I can do it; You can do it.
If you are not so sure; may I make a simple recommendation - Revisit The Little Engine That Could